No Perfectionism Today

Romans 3:23 No one is perfect (My version)
 
Stop being a perfectionist. It really does hinder you and those around you. Make an effort to be easier on yourself!
 
If God does not expect you to be perfect then why do you have those expectations for yourself? Be careful, because if you are a parent or a leader/manager you may be teaching those who follow you that if you can’t measure up to your standards then maybe they can’t either.
 
Grow in grace today. Messing up is something we all do. It makes you a better person to fall and get up than to never fall at all.
 
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Judging Others

Ephesians 4:22-24 (GW) You were taught to change the way you were living. The person you used to be will ruin you through desires that deceive you. However, you were taught to have a new attitude. You were also taught to become a new person created to be like God, with a life that truely has God’s approval and is holy.

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I am reading a book, “Emotionally Healthy Spirituality”, by Peter Scazzero.  There was a quote in the book that goes “The monk,” said one of the Desert Fathers, “must die to his neighbor and never judge him at all in any way whatever”.  He continued: “If you are occupied with your own faults, you have no time to see those of your neighbor.” WOW.

I don’t know about you but I have a long way to go in being perfected in Christ.  I, like you, sin every day.  If I could choose to be like someone in the bible I think I would like to be Enoch.  The Bible says in Genesis 5:22-24 (NKJV) After he begot Methuselah, Enoch walked with God three hundred years, and had sons and daughters. So all the days of Enoch were three hundred and sixty-five years. And Enoch walked with God; and he was not, for God took him.

Just sit for a minute and let that scripture soak in.  He walked with God three hundred years.  I know that God walks with me every step of every day.  But to actually WALK WITH GOD!?!  I love the old hymn that says, “And He walks with me and He talks with me, And He tells me I am His own, And the joy we share, as we tarry there, None other has ever known.”

Both the quote and this scripture made me stop to evaluate me.  Not to measure me against anyone else but to measure me.  God loves you and He love me.  He knows that we are not perfect.  He knows that we continue to sin, even when we try not to to.  That’s why He sent Jesus.  That’s why He has done everything through history….just for US! Because He loves us!

I don’t know about you but every now and then I need to be reminded of this.  I need to stop and reflect on me and my imperfect relationship with Jesus so I can focus on making it better.  Not because I think I will die and go to hell.  Not because I believe that God is judging me.  Not because I have to stand before the Lord and confess all my sin.  BUT because he loves me so much and has done so much for me, how I can I not want to replay him with my love and dedication?

You see the scripture of Enoch ends with “And Enoch walked with God; and he was not, for God took him.”  How amazing would it be for your tombstone to have this written across it with your name instead of Enoch?

 

 

The Perfect Mother

Proverbs 31:28 says Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her

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Aha.  I knew I would get you to read post after reading the title.  I hope my post today will take the pressure off of you to be the perfect mother by telling you that there is no perfect mother, no not one.

When I am in my car, preaching is on the radio.  This morning I heard one small statement from a preacher before reaching my destination that has rolled around in my mind all day.  The pastor said, “You will never be the mother your children think you should be.”

Since I did not hear the full teaching I tried to break down what this statement might have meant.  If he was referencing a teenage child, I get it.  They want you to be like the COOL parents who don’t have rules or curfews for their kids.  A toddler or small child doesn’t like it when their mothers say no.  What about an adult child?  Could he have meant an adult child would look back over their years at home and pick apart the good and bad parenting skills of their mom and dad?  Would parents ever measure up to their adult child’s expectations of how they should have been raised?

After mulling this over all day, I began to reflect on my children’s life and how I impacted them as a mother.  I can tell you that I messed up allot, mostly on my first born.  She was our guinea pig.  None of them came with an owners manual so we had to figure it out on our own.  Then when number two came along, I thought I knew exactly what to do and then I had boy and boy was he different.  Again no owners manual.  Number three came along and I decided who needed an owners manual, this one had to be perfect.  Threes a charm right?  Again no owners manual.

Although I was not a perfect mother and although I made mistakes I tried my best to be a good Christian mother. Below are a few scriptures that I tried to live by as I raised my children.  Remember I said tried and remember I also said I messed up allot.

  1. Gentleness: Galatians 5:22-23 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23  gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.
  2. A Teacher: Deuteronomy 6:6-7  And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart.  You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise.
  3. A Trainer: Proverbs 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go;  even when he is old he will not depart from it.
  4. A Disciplinarian: Proverbs 13:24 Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him.
  5. Forgiving: Ephesians 4:32 Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.
  6. Love My Husband: Titus 2:4-5 … and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.
  7. A Prayer Warrior: Luke 18:1 And he told them a parable to the effect that they ought always to pray and not lose heart.
  8. Trust In The Lord: Psalms 9:10 And those who know your name put their trust in you, for you, O Lord, have not forsaken those who seek you.
  9. Taught them Work Ethic: Proverbs 31:17 She dresses herself with strength and makes her arms strong.
  10. Mama Bear: Ok so this one isn’t in the bible, however Psalms 127:3 says Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward.

After I compare myself to the scriptures I tried to live by, I think I was an ok mom.  My kids call me, check on me, send me cards, buy me presents, come to visit and tell me they love me.  I am one blessed mama who is not perfect but who is perfectly loved.  Read the scripture s every day and try to do what you can to follow them. You will be or you are a great mom.  Don’t be too hard on yourself.  Happy Mothers Day!