Financial Infidelity

Enjoy today’s blog by guest writer, Kelly Bivins, CPA and Associate Pastors Wife of The Body Church, A Church For Anybody.

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“Two in Five Americans Confess to Financial Infidelity against Their Partner” according to the national endowment for financial education. Financial infidelity is when couples with combined finances lie to each other about money. Example: one spouse may hide a debt from the other spouse or one spouse makes large purchases without the input of the other.

Jesus said the following in relation to an inheritance: Luke 12:13-15- Someone in the crowd said to him, “Teacher, tell my brother to divide the inheritance with me.”14 Jesus replied, “Man, who appointed me a judge or an arbiter between you?” 15 Then he said to them, “Watch out! Be on your guard against all kinds of greed; life does not consist in an abundance of possessions.” I believe we can also apply this to married couples with combined money. What would cause one spouse to lie to the other about money? Does it boil down to wanting an abundance of possessions?

Money issues can lead to stress and divorce. Spouses should be willing to share with each other and discuss money openly. Genesis 2:24 – For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become of flesh. Married people are life partners. Money does not belong to her or to him. The money belongs to them together.

Tips for managing money in marriage:

  • Pray together for God’s guidance in handling finances
  • Learn what God’s word says about handling finances
  • Enroll in a personal finance class
  • Compile a budget together
  • Think of our spouse first before spending

Forgotten

When my father and my mother forsake me, Then the Lord will take care of me. Psalm 27:10

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Forgetfulness hurts. We’ve all been forgotten and know the pain of expecting someone to remember — to show up, call, write, ask, make time — and coming up empty and alone.

One of the common things seniors deal with is forgetfulness.  I have always been a forgetful person to some degree.  I think my forgetfulness comes from being too busy.  I forget where I leave my phone, put my keys and sometimes, you will be shocked, where I put my last cup of coffee.  Oddly though, I am great at remembering conversations and details of things I write.  I remember the location in my notebooks of where I write things.  I can give you details of where in a notebook something was written, how far in the notebook it is, whether it is on the right or left page, top, middle or bottom of the page. The one thing that I try not to forget is people, especially those I love and call a friend or family.

Everyone reading this has probably felt forgotten at one time or another.  Maybe you were not invited to a special event, you were not included in something special or not informed of something that you wish you had known about.  I think it hurts us most when it is a family member or close friend whom you feel has left you out.

Our schedules are so busy that often these things happen, not out of spite or hatefulness but out of busyness.  I do believe that they dynamics of family has changed over the years.  Checking in on my mom, even dropping by each day was a daily event for me.  No matter how far away I lived, I called my parents every day just to check in, stay up on their lives and I never missed a holiday family get together. Now before you make excuses that this is because I am woman, my brothers did the same thing.  I think this still represents some families today, but even in my own family, I have seen a shift of how families interact with each other.

Maybe your family doesn’t “hang” with you like you wish they would.  Maybe you feel alone.  Maybe you feel like no one remembers you and you feel like you don’t matter.  God never forgets His children.  He doesn’t need a memory on Facebook to remind Him of you.  He doesn’t need to scan his box of old photos to remember you.  He doesn’t need to keep a picture of you hanging on the wall to remember you. He NEVER forget His children and that means you.

Though you may feel forgotten today, your Father will never forget you nor forsake you.  You can rest in the Lord today knowing that not only does He remember you but he loves you.

You Can Do Anything God is Calling You To Do

31961313_10155980621612702_5661472048153624576_oExodus 4: 10-12

But Moses said to the LORD, “Oh, my Lord, I am not eloquent, either in the past or since you have spoken to your servant, but I am slow of speech and of tongue.” Then the LORD said to him, “Who has made man’s mouth? Who makes him mute, or deaf, or seeing, or blind? Is it not I, the LORD? Now therefore go, and I will be with your mouth and teach you what you shall speak.”

On October 7, 2014 I created a page called Droplets To Ripples. I really believed in my heart that God was calling me to become a motivational speaker and author. The launch of this page was a way for me to let God know that I heard Him and I was going to be obedient to what He was asking me to do. I ask a couple of friends to join me and to include post when they could.

Life got busy. Friends came and went. Jobs changed and my church went through a break and so did I. SO I QUIT. Yep, you heard it from me. I am a pastors wife who quit, thats got to be worse than when you quit right??

Earlier this year, I felt the Spirit of The Lord nudge my heart to begin this journey again. Even though I had quit and pushed the thought deep in the back of my mind, God did not. Once again, to appease God, I moved from a page to a group and began to write devotionals again.

I thought if I would just write something on my page, a little more often than before, then God would be satisfied yet again. After all, I was going to write longer post and write more often. I made all kinds of excuses as to why this was ENOUGH. WELLLLLLLL……It wasn’t. Writing on a group page was NOT what He has ask me to do.

This weekend 20+ women attended an annual women’s retreat titled “Radiance”. The theme was surrounding Moses and how his face was radiant after seeing the back side of God when he went up to get the ten commandments. Well God showed up for me in ay own burning bush.Jennie Gray Scott, a Proverbs 31 speaker and author, was a guest speaker at our event. I shared with Jennie what I felt God had ask me to do and I immediately began to give her a few of my excuses why I could not do it. One by one Jennie, like God did to Moses, she told me how I could do everything God had called me to. She even told me that she would help me do it. By the way, I was not asking her to help me, I was telling her why I COULDN’T DO IT. I was hoping she would tell me how she understood and how I was right.

God has something for you to do. Stop making excuses and go for it. Don’t waste years like I did. My son has a new facebook page called Launch Pad Movement: https://www.facebook.com/launchpadmovement/
The purpose of the movement is help people like me and you reach our goals, our dreams and our destiny that God has called us to. He and his friend search out people who have done what you want to do. They host podcast and help you make connections to help you become successful at a faster pace.

You can do anything that God is calling you to do. I personally heard him LOUD AND CLEAR this weekend and I will not wait this time. So if you need a motivational speaker for your women’s group, small group or event, I would love to come speak and share the word of God with you. Pray for me as I begin my book and this new journey of fully surrendering to The Lord. Start your journey today ladies! I am starting mine! Thank you Jennie Gray Scott and thank you Lord for trusting and calling me to your service.