Learn Self Defense

Learn Self Defense

When I think of today’s title I not only think about physical defense but I think about mental defense.  The world we live in can be frustrating, tiring and scary.  Anyone 25 years old or older would agree that life is very really different today than when they were growing up.  Some would say it seems as if the world is going in a negative direction.

For the glass half full person, like me, you may be thinking the world is different but you see great process in many areas, just as technology.  I like change.  I thrive on it.  I get bored easily and lose interest when I fall into the ho hums of the same ole daily grind. What I love most about change is the challenge to make change work.

Proverbs 4:6-7 says Do not forsake wisdom, and she will protect you; love her, and she will watch over you. The beginning of wisdom is this: Get wisdom. Though it cost all you have, get understanding.
Wake up everyday ready to battle not only those who want to harm you physically but those who want to harm you mentally.  After many months of posting my blogs in a new venue and receiving likes, thanks and positive comments every day,  I opened a comment to read “quit posting this crap every day”.  I must admit my first instinct was to think my stuff was crap and ALL my reader hated what I was saying.  For days I barely even looked at my website and I simply pushed any words I wanted to type to the back of my mind.  But after a few days of feeling sorry for myself, I pulled my big girl britches up and decided to get back to writing again.  My blogs certainly may not be wanted by everyone who sees them or reads them , but my words of encouragement are for everyone. So for the lady who hated my post,  may you not read it when you see and if you do, may you be encouraged my crap that you have read.
I encourage you take a few minutes to physically and mentally prepare yourself for attack.  Become wise in the ways of the enemy so you can expect his next move and plan how to win the battle.  Every battle you win can boost your self-confidence. Go win today.

Write Your Will.

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It’s not fun, but — especially if you have kids — this is an essential task. We all want to think we will live forever but no one really knows what tomorrow may bring.
 
I am a half glass full person so I often see things through rose colored glasses. I know that a will can be depressing but it doesn’t have to be. If you really love your family and we all do, then you want to take care of them, even after you are gone. Whether you have small or grown children, a spouse or grandchildren there may be a few things that you would like to leave for them to continue for future generations. A will is not always about just leaving someone your fortune or your debt.
 
A will can help your family know what your wishes are and helps them by making tough decisions for them. So many families fall apart after a loved ones dies because they disagree on how property, personal items and yes money should be distributed. Take that responsibility off of your loved ones, who are already grieving, by telling them how you want them to handle your affairs after you are gone. Your family may not like everything you want but they certainly will be thankful to you for making these tough decisions for them.
 
James 4:14

Clean Out Your Closet

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According to the experts, you only use 20 percent of your wardrobe. Up your percentage by donating at least some of the clothes you’re never going to wear again to charity!

I love clothes and I section them in closet into 3 categories. I have my fat clothes, my skinny clothes and my clothes I can wear right now. What I am finding is that the section I can wear right now is very small while the other sections are taking over my closet.

My husband has the spiritual gift of giving and with that he wants to give everything away that is not currently in use. He is a real minimalist. I struggle with giving things away. My father grew up during the depression so he KEPT everything, He knew that if he did not need it right away, that he may need it later or better yet, someone else he knew might need it. I guess I take after him.

This year, I am cleaning out my closet. I may donate a few items, try to sell a few at a consignment store and take others in to church to just give to anyone who wants/needs clothes. I think by decluttering my closet I will be motivated to declutter other parts of my personal and work life.

1 Timothy 6:7 For we brought nothing into the world, and we cannot take anything out of the world.

See How Far You Have Come

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Organize and review your photos. Some of you have shoeboxes full of old photos, some have albums full, organized by year and/or event, some have photos on cd’s, on flash drives, some have them stored in the cloud, stored on social media and/or stored in your phone.

Wherever you have may have them take a few minutes today to take a look what you have from the oldest to newest. Have a notepad handy and make a few notes of things you and other important family members have accomplished. Actually set aside or print off a few that you love and put them in an old-fashioned photo album for you to review as the year goes by.

Sometimes we need a reminder of things we have overcome, places and people we have visited and where we came from. Celebrate who you are and all that God has created you to be. You have come a long way baby!

Jeremiah 29:11

Impromptu Moments

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Mark 6:31

Live your life in a way that allows for moments of reflection, rest and being fully present. Simplify your schedule to create margin for impromptu shopping trips and lazy Saturdays.

When was the last time you decided, on a whim, to do something alone, with a friend or your spouse?  Has you time become so consumed with things to do that you have no time to add anything spur of the moment to it?

Everyday I wake up to list of MORE than 10 things that need to happen that day.  Some of those things are personal and some of them are business.  I spend all week working on things outside the home and then on the weekends I fill my time with things of the home.  I try my best to SQUEEZE in the grandkids, my kids and my husband.  Sadly, even they seem to get leftover time.

Purposefully plan at least one weekend a month that you have NOTHING planned.  Be sure that the house cleaning, grocery shopping and grass cutting are all done before the weekend or choose to skip it this one time.  That morning when you wake up, decide last minute on what your day will consist of.  Go hiking, ride a horse, catch a train, take a bus to a big city, ride a motorcycle, you choose.  Your body, mind and family will thank you and you will be surprised at how excited you will actually be as you rest and enjoy this unscheduled time.

 

Stop Procrastinating.

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If you have ever taken a time management class you know that before your day begins you should make a “to do” list of things you need to accomplish that day. Step two in the process is to prioritize those items on your list from most to least important. Then the last part is to begin completing and checking off items beginning with the most important.
 
It is easy to put the things we hate to do at the bottom of the list or maybe rate them high and skip them as we check off the items we complete. I recommend that you begin with the things you hate the most. Procrastination only delays the inevitable and causes you stress and anxiety. Once you begin the hard task, break it down into several smaller steps. Then reward yourself after completing each step. Each reward will motivate you to move on to the task ending with a completion and a bigger reward. No matter how hard it may seem…YOU CAN DO IT!
 
Proverbs 6:6-11 “Take A Lesson From The Ants”

Take Care of Yourself

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Practice self-care. Invest in your emotional and mental health each day.
 
There are so many demands on our time and attention from family, work, children, friends, and volunteer work. If we don’t take the time to tend to ourselves, our well will dry up rather quickly. We will have nothing left to give.
 
When it comes to things we care about like our family and our work, none of us aim to give the very last leftover bits of ourselves. Rather, we desire to give the very best of ourselves. So when we take care of ourselves, we are filled up, renewed, and restored so we can offer the people around us the very best of who we are.
 
Mark 1:9-13 is an example where Jesus took time to go away and be alone to be refreshed. Today I encourage you to add some time in your calendar daily, or at least weekly, to do something you love that is just for you. It may be reading a book, soaking in a bubble bath, shooting at the range, golfing, camping or walking a trail in the mountains. Whatever you do, do it to take care of you. You will love yourself, your job, and your family more when you do.