Proverbs 31:28 says Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her
Aha. I knew I would get you to read post after reading the title. I hope my post today will take the pressure off of you to be the perfect mother by telling you that there is no perfect mother, no not one.
When I am in my car, preaching is on the radio. This morning I heard one small statement from a preacher before reaching my destination that has rolled around in my mind all day. The pastor said, “You will never be the mother your children think you should be.”
Since I did not hear the full teaching I tried to break down what this statement might have meant. If he was referencing a teenage child, I get it. They want you to be like the COOL parents who don’t have rules or curfews for their kids. A toddler or small child doesn’t like it when their mothers say no. What about an adult child? Could he have meant an adult child would look back over their years at home and pick apart the good and bad parenting skills of their mom and dad? Would parents ever measure up to their adult child’s expectations of how they should have been raised?
After mulling this over all day, I began to reflect on my children’s life and how I impacted them as a mother. I can tell you that I messed up allot, mostly on my first born. She was our guinea pig. None of them came with an owners manual so we had to figure it out on our own. Then when number two came along, I thought I knew exactly what to do and then I had boy and boy was he different. Again no owners manual. Number three came along and I decided who needed an owners manual, this one had to be perfect. Threes a charm right? Again no owners manual.
Although I was not a perfect mother and although I made mistakes I tried my best to be a good Christian mother. Below are a few scriptures that I tried to live by as I raised my children. Remember I said tried and remember I also said I messed up allot.
- Gentleness: Galatians 5:22-23 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.
- A Teacher: Deuteronomy 6:6-7 And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. 7 You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise.
- A Trainer: Proverbs 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.
- A Disciplinarian: Proverbs 13:24 Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him.
- Forgiving: Ephesians 4:32 Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.
- Love My Husband: Titus 2:4-5 … and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, 5 to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.
- A Prayer Warrior: Luke 18:1 And he told them a parable to the effect that they ought always to pray and not lose heart.
- Trust In The Lord: Psalms 9:10 And those who know your name put their trust in you, for you, O Lord, have not forsaken those who seek you.
- Taught them Work Ethic: Proverbs 31:17 She dresses herself with strength and makes her arms strong.
- Mama Bear: Ok so this one isn’t in the bible, however Psalms 127:3 says Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward.
After I compare myself to the scriptures I tried to live by, I think I was an ok mom. My kids call me, check on me, send me cards, buy me presents, come to visit and tell me they love me. I am one blessed mama who is not perfect but who is perfectly loved. Read the scripture s every day and try to do what you can to follow them. You will be or you are a great mom. Don’t be too hard on yourself. Happy Mothers Day!