Ephesians 4: 29 (NIV) Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.
Have you ever or are you now the topic of someone else’s conversation in a negative way? Have you ever or are you currently dealing with someone who is trying to ruin your reputation or cause others not to associate with you? How many are dealing with someone at work who may be trying to lie or black ball you, cause drama or even get you in trouble with the boss? Here is the kicker question…Is the person doing this a Christian?
Well obviously, this has been an issue for hundreds of years , since Paul was addressing it, I am sure it will continue for hundreds of years to come. I know, that doesn’t make it right just because it happens. It is probably more confusing when the other person is a christian.
Today I want to encourage you to stop unwholesome talk if you are doing it at church, at home or at work. Have you ever heard the saying “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all”. Short sweet and to the point. To me it seems so simple to say but hard to do. As christians we should remind ourselves of this saying often. The book of James in the Bible says the tongue is hard to control.
I think each of us has been on both sides of the isle on this topic, whether in the past or maybe right now. Following God and his instructions for life’s situations is not always easy. It can be difficult to live as Christ has as ask us to do, however it is possible with prayer and God’s help.
Whether you are on the receiving or giving end of unwholesome talk I encourage you to read a few of the following verses, verses 30-32 And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.
Last night I was scanning TV shows and somehow I landed on a program about an addict and his family. This man had been addicted to alcohol and drugs for over 4 years. HIs family had tried many ways and many times to help him with no success. They called in an outside source who led them through an intervention process. He did not do the intervention himself, however he was there to train and encourage the family on how to get the man to ask for help on his own, not to force him into treatment. During the intervention the instructor did nothing. He sat silently in the room and watched as the family members did exactly what he had taught them to do. The man stomped, yelled, cursed and even ran away. The family felt defeated and helpless. Within about 15 minutes he called his wife and said he wanted to get help. In the end, he was able to beat the drugs/alcohol and has been clean now for over 3 years.
God gives us instructions on how to handle this situation and He is the one sitting back quietly overseeing the intervention process. All we have to do is follow His instructions. Like the family, we have to trust God, be patient as He works on the other person and wait for the promised results. God wants us to live peaceably with other men, he says so in His word. Whether we are on the receiving or giving end of the unwholesome talk we need to go to God. We should always remember that others are watching us and listening to us. Why would someone want to be a part of any family that destroys its own family?
Ask God to come intervene today. Regardless of whether you are dishing it our taking it, God can help. It’s time for an INTERVENTION! You got it! Lets do this!